My friend shared this with me today. After reading it felt empowered and jolted at the same time. Mixed emotions. Liberated and bounded the same time. This is such a sad state. Humans judge other humans on basis of what! I brought me to the very realisation that very moment; a reflection of what I have been party to all this while in my life. I accepted so many things because I thought of myself as one or more of those things listed in there. 

All this while I knew I am not those things, but constantly fought for people to see that too. In my mind I was always those things. 

All this while I have been fighting for people to see my smile, but accustomed to what they are used to looking at.

All this while I was focused on reading the books that that I could talk to people about.

All this while I was focused on making my home good, and not on making my home.

All this while I was living a lie, knowing it is a lie!

Not focusing in what I am, I made others look at me like that too!

I am my mistakes too and I accept it. From here on I am growing..

The "Dick"vantage

Yes! you read it right! I am publicly using the word. People who possess it, openly use it, I'm just using the 'word'.. DICK!!!

And by people who possess I just don't mean the obvious- Men, I'm referring to all the people with solid patriarchal ethics and values! Big words! Well, they are just another set of words in the dictionary, which the corporate world use to emphasize their companies' foundations and some morons use to gain superficial power over others.

These morons are also different kinds:

1. Men who want to exercise power over other men.

2. Men who want to exercise power over women.

3. Last and the most fatal- WOMEN who want to exercise power over other WOMAN.

You may be thinking, how can a woman possess a dick. The answer is very unfortunate and true- by giving birth to a child who possesses it, physiologically. These creatures think they have the world at their feet; everybody should look up to them, as if she is someone with special powers to have has such a human come out of her. These are the women who create and enable the other types of morons listed above.

Today Feminism, Women Empowerment etc. is the new trend and talk of the town everywhere, but, its just directed towards the first two types of morons, whereas we don't understand that the traitor is one of us. Its a woman who has given advantages to men; they have been groomed that way. Men have been brought up that way. Its all been conditioned to them since their birth, or probably before even their conception.

Still the want of male child wins over that for a female child. We don't even spare a sperm! It has got all the pressure of taking the Y chromosome so that it can be proven as fruitful to its nurturer and receptor.

We have all the moolah for Educating a Girl Child, Protecting a Girl Child and what not! Why cant we have focus on Educating every child, and empowering children to be better human beings, so that we don't have to be fixated on their genders? Why cant we create an ecosystem where a person is regarded as a human rather than being a girl or a boy? Why cant we stop associating colors to the genders of the children? 

The day we find answers to all this will hopefully be the day we truly progress as a society. Till then, Happy Women's Day!

Change..

Its such a powerful word. Its a world, an opportunity, a realm in itself.

People may be frightened of this word, or excited about it. There may also be people who are not really bothered.

The fact however is 'Its the only constant.'.

How it effects our lives is how we look at it. And by the second  'it', I mean life. I look at my life as an opportunity to learn, to grow, to know every single day. I want to achieve many things, so don't really have time to loose. I have so many new people to meet, so many different perspectives to see, so many places to visit, so many cultures to understand, so many different activities to do. Every time I do a new thing or see or learn or know, I change.

The plants and land masses, the oceans and the sky, they stay at the very same place, but they do also change. 

Change is inevitable.

Change is the only constant.

Being open to change will only help us accept the phenomena, happily. We like it or not, its still going to happen. 

In words of Mr. Tony Robbins, "Change is inevitable. Progress is Optional."

Moving In!

Its been a while since my last post. And surely its got to do with the title of my article- Moving In!


Move in has the below meanings as per the dictionary:

In either case, it takes a lot of energy, time, planning, mental peace and physical strength. It is emotionally charging and discharging both. 

"move in

phrasal verb of move

1. 1.

   take possession of a new house or business premises.

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2. 2.

   intervene, especially so as to take control of a situation."
3. 
   

The first meaning of the verb, gives you happiness and makes it sound like a fun activity. While the second one males it more like an activity where you have to make things right. As if something is wrong somewhere. Certainly not fun!

Well, for me it was kind of a mix of both the meanings. I moved in to a different place than my home and to very different people and belief system. Took possession of a new house, and took control of everything. When I left, I had a feeling of excitement to begin my life afresh, the way I want it to paint is in my hands. such a liberating feeling this is. Not that I knew, how hard emotionally and mentally this is. 

Beginning a new life is a exciting task, which gives you opportunity to learn, to manage, to grow, to adventure. It also exposes you to your fears, your weaknesses, to unforeseen problems. It may give you sleepless nights, stressful mornings or what not. All this during the transition phase. 

I believe its always better to have a person by your side who is there to understand you and your emotional ups and downs. What better if that person is experiencing the same things. 

Luckily, for me I have a partner by my side and we both have happily and gladly Moved- In to a new place,a new life, a new relationship and a new ride of ups and down together. not sacred of the second meaning of the phrase now!

So its Happy Moving- In.

:-)

Fail to Succeed

Situations come in life when we feel so helpless, so hopeless that we can't face ourselves. We build walls around to hide away from who we are and not from the world outside. We lie to ouself; to save ourself from our own pity, we become the victim in front of others.

I believe, that's where we go wrong. I see it's ok to accept failure, it's ok accept disappointment. It's ok to pity on ouself. It's ok to cry. If we can accept failure or defeat, how can we celebrate success fully!

It is important to taste failure to live success fully. It's dejection, disappointment and hopelessness that makes us improve ourselves. It's that feeling which makes us become a better self. We should learn to embrace it and cherish it for we grow because of that.

Cheers to failure!!

Violence!!

I met a child who was unbelievably quiet. He was constantly hiding behind his mother. For every small nibble he wanted to have, he looked at his father, as if taking an affirmative. Then he went and sat at a small corner and started playing in his I-pad. Then came two other children who were gleefully playing.

This young lad glanced at them and then at his parents, and started playing in his I-pad again. He kept peeking at those children and his parents, as if trying to hide something. He was playing, but his heart was somewhere else. His mother came and sat beside him in a while, and started praising him for playing Angry Birds and the way he killed those pigs! He got distracted and became happy. A loud laughter cam fro the other 2 kids and he is a very soft voice asked he mother, 'Mumma, can I play with them. I promise I wont make noise and wont get bruised. I promise you wont have to shout at me.' And I was taken aback. 

How was that toddler responsible if his parents shouted at him! How was he responsible if someone does not how to talk! How!

We all stand against Domestic Violence, which is commendable, but my concern is what do we name shouting, screaming and threatening by family members be termed as. Is Domestic Violence just Physical in nature? What do we call it when people shout at you, scold you and stop you from doing something because they are not comfortable. What about when people dont accept you for who you are and force you to 'mend your ways'. I propose this all to be considered under domestic violence only. 

You are not hitting your child, but are shouting at him and threatening to hit him if he/she doesnt behave in your intended way, you are indulging in domestic violence. A family is there to support you in thick and thin and not make you a coward. Discipline is important in life and so is letting loose and being own self. Adhering to rules is important but having a mind of our own is also important. Expressing own self is good and so is accepting others'. A family may not think alike at all times, but as elders it is our responsibility, to have children form their opinions and viewpoints.

Parents are the biggest influence on a person in his/her life and if they are un-accepting, the society will also be, and we become 'INTOLERANT".

Please dont create a situation, wherein your near and dear ones become their true self when they are away from you! You'll only push them further.

We are Intolerant!

We are reading and listening about the newfound 'national issue'- "INTOLERANCE". Everybody is having their opinion, and nobody is shying away from putting it forward. Media, News channels, celebrities, politicians, everybody seems to discuss and getting irate of intolerance in our country.

 
While not knowing much about the topic, I googled about it. And viola! the first result was tagged as "A week of worrying about rising intolerance in India - BBC.com". So intolerance was rising, but it has always been there. I am not blaming our country for all this. A country is formed by the people who live there. And I believe, we bunch of people, who claim to have diverse religions, diverse practices and living in a country called India, have always been intolerant people. 
 
Had we not been intolerant in the first place, we would still have been a British Colony. Had we not been intolerant, we would not have framed a democratic economy. Had we not been intolerant, we would not have been pioneers and leaders in so many fields. Had we not been intolerant, we would never have come to heights which we are at right now! Its our intolerance to defeat and and substandards, that has taken us this far. Cricket is a religion in our country, and we cannot tolerate defeat in it. And because of this we have legends of the game belonging to our country. We could not tolerate good infrastructure in other parts of the worls, we started to build our country's infrastructure and look today we operate the Japanese Technology based metro in our country. We could not tolerate our poeple going out of the country to earn, we brought multinational companies to ours. We could not tolerate schools and colleges of other countries being the best in the world, be brought our IIMs and ISBs to standards of top B-Schools of the world.
 
Just that till now, the intolerance was channelled towards progress, nobody was bothered to acknowledge its presence in our systems. Now when we see it from a critical vision, we seem to have listed down a hundred flaws, barring thousands of good things about it. We have become intolerant to see the good side of things. we have become a negative nation. And that's what worries me and perhaps other people who have the guts to come out and say it loud. And what we see is the remark and not the broken heart behind it!